Fail Forward Friday: When Your Back’s Against the Wall
Episode Summary
What happens when there’s no safety net—no Plan B, no escape hatch, no “maybe next time”? In this raw, unfiltered episode of the Choosing Happy podcast, Heather gets brutally honest about the moments in life where quitting simply wasn’t possible.
Through two powerful stories—caring for her parents during the darkest hours, and pushing through make-or-break feedback in an unforgiving NLP Trainers Training on the other side of the world—Heather shares what happens when you’re forced to become someone new just to survive.
But here’s the secret: those “no way out” moments aren’t punishment—they’re invitations to transformation. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, stretched beyond what you think you can handle, or terrified you’ll crack under the weight, this is the episode for you.
What You’ll Learn
- Why life’s “no escape” moments hold the power for your greatest transformation
- The surprising gift found when your only option is to keep going
- How to use pain, commitment, and pressure to reveal your real strengths
- The gritty truth about resilience, comfort zones, and what “success” really means
- Actionable takeaways to apply—right now—whenever you feel at breaking point
- How to step into your next level, before the year ends
Chapters:
- 00:19 - Transforming Under Pressure
- 00:56 - Caring for My Parents: A Journey of Resilience
- 03:34 - Embracing Transformation Through Challenges
- 05:24 - Choosing Happiness Amidst Adversity
- 06:58 - Embracing Grit and Journey
- 07:41 - Embracing the Journey of Happiness
Standout Quotes
- "Diamonds aren’t made in comfort—they’re forged under unthinkable pressure."
- "You don’t meet your real self in the easy times. You meet them in the crisis."
- "Sometimes the only way out is through. And who you become in the ‘through’ part? That’s the whole point."
Call to Action
Have you ever been so cornered you had to dig deeper than you knew was possible? Or are you there now? Share your story with Heather @ChoosingHappyPodcast or on ChoosingHappy.space.
Ready to stop treating your dreams like suggestions and start treating them as non-negotiables? Join “Raising the Stakes on Happy”—a transformative course built to close your year with courage and clarity.
Call to Action:
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Transcript
Have you ever been so deep in something that failure isn't just scary, it's impossible.
Speaker A:No exit, no backup plan, no option to walk away.
Speaker A:This is life when the stakes are high and quitting simply isn't on the menu.
Speaker A:Sometimes when failure isn't an option, we don't just survive, we transform in ways we never imagined.
Speaker A:On today's Fail Forward Friday, I share moments from my own life when turning back simply wasn't possible, and the unexpected gifts that came from being forced to go all in.
Speaker A:So stay tuned for today's Choosing Happy podcast.
Speaker A:Let me tell you about a time when I was caring for my parents not too long ago.
Speaker A:Some days felt like I was failing them and myself.
Speaker A:I was exhausted, overwhelmed, unable to take a holiday, unable to walk away.
Speaker A:But leaving wasn't an option.
Speaker A:Sometimes life's responsibilities aren't negotiable.
Speaker A:Even when things felt like they were falling apart, I had to find the strength I never knew knew I had because I had no other choice.
Speaker A:And I know there are many people out there today who are in similar situations.
Speaker A:Another defining moment was during my NLP's trainers training in Australia.
Speaker A:I mentioned this on Wednesday's podcast, where the feedback was brutal, honest and it stung.
Speaker A:In the first few days we had to give presentations and as I say, it was brutal.
Speaker A:There were days I wanted to go home, but I was thousands of miles away, committed for three weeks.
Speaker A:I couldn't leave.
Speaker A:It was all or nothing.
Speaker A:I chose all in.
Speaker A:Although it was hard, that no escape moment became a gift, revealing what I was truly capable of when pushed beyond limits.
Speaker A:And because I was all in, I actually excelled and outperformed myself.
Speaker A:So if you're in a place right now where you feel you might not cope, feeling less than or unsure that you can get through, stop for a moment.
Speaker A:Just take a pause and ask yourself, how will I feel when this all works out?
Speaker A:And remember why you're doing this.
Speaker A:Diamonds aren't made out of cotton wool, they're forged in the pressure and fire.
Speaker A:And as we approach the end of the year, a time for reflection and goal setting, ask yourself what difference would it make to raise the stakes around your outcome?
Speaker A:What if you committed not just to a goal, but to showing up with fierce determination, going all in for you, your life, your relationships and your dreams.
Speaker A:If you're ready to finish the year renewed and recommitted, join my Raising the Stakes Unhappy course, which will be released at the beginning of December.
Speaker A:It's your invitation to step into your fullest potential before the year closes with clarity, courage, and, of course, choice.
Speaker A:When you find yourself in situations where failure or quitting simply aren't options, there's profound growth and transformation waiting on the other side.
Speaker A:And here's what these moments teach us and how you can apply them.
Speaker A:A deeper version of yourself emerges.
Speaker A:Adversity strips away distractions and surface fears, revealing resilience and creativity you didn't know you had.
Speaker A:So the next time pressure builds, pause, breathe and ask, what inner strength am I yet to discover?
Speaker A:Here, comfort zones dissolve permanently.
Speaker A:You learn that safe is an illusion and growth demands discomfort.
Speaker A:So choose one uncomfortable task this week that nudges your limits and journal the feelings it unlocks.
Speaker A:You redefine success.
Speaker A:It's no longer about flawless performance or winning.
Speaker A:Success becomes about showing up with courage, being adaptable, being messy, and owning your process, even when it is messy and imperfect.
Speaker A:Celebrate small wins and progress, even if the outcome looks messy.
Speaker A:Resilience is a muscle, not magic.
Speaker A:Every moment you don't quit, you'll build endurance, making the next challenge easier.
Speaker A:So practice a daily micro resilience habit like a quick breath pause or repeating positive affirmations.
Speaker A:Or if you're doing something like exercise, just a quick extra exercise to help you grow unexpected lessons and gratitude and presence.
Speaker A:Being unable to escape forces you to find joy and meaning in the moment, and this is why I created the Choosing Happy podcast.
Speaker A:So each day note one small thing you're grateful for.
Speaker A:And if you listen to my episode on Gratitude, it isn't about being grateful and not expecting more.
Speaker A:It's about appreciating the moment, especially during hard times and transformation beyond recognition.
Speaker A:You may surprise yourself with how different you become and reflect monthly on your growth areas and celebrate how far you've come.
Speaker A:Connection and support become lifelines.
Speaker A:Community and asking for help are vital, and I know this is often difficult, especially when you're feeling isolated and alone in your situation.
Speaker A:But try reaching out this week to one trusted friend or mentor and share your journey unapologetically.
Speaker A:You gain clarity on what truly matters.
Speaker A:Crises clarify core values and purpose, and also really get you to realize that things you may have been complaining about in the past have nothing on where you are now.
Speaker A:Take a moment to write down your top three values, what's important to you, what's really important to you deep down, and revisit them when decisions feel overwhelming.
Speaker A:Have you ever faced a situation where quitting wasn't really an option?
Speaker A:Where failure wasn't even a possibility and you had to give it everything?
Speaker A:Share your story with us at choosing Happy Podcast on socials or on the website at ChoosingHappy Space.
Speaker A:If you're in that place now, pause, breathe and honour your grit, honour your journey and take the lessons wherever you can.
Speaker A:Subscribe and visit ChoosingHappy Space for resources, events and a new community coming soon.
Speaker A:Committed to showing up boldly and beautifully.
Speaker A:And until next time, keep Choosing Happy because sometimes, when there's no way out, you discover who you truly are.
Speaker A:Thank you so much for taking the time to listen to this week's episode.
Speaker A:If you enjoyed it or think it would be valuable to others, please do share.
Speaker A:And if you really enjoyed it, please please leave me a review.
Speaker A:It really helps the podcast, all of the links are in the show notes, and I look forward to seeing you next week on the Choosing Happy Podcast.
