Episode 25

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15th Nov 2021

Episode 25 - Choosing Your Life Support

Supporting yourself through these unprecedented times can be a challenge. Here are 29 ways to return to a high frequency state, return to Choosing Happy.

In this episode I want to help you to create a support kit that keeps you positive, energised and helps you to refocus when you are knocked off balance.

I guide you step by step through a fun process of creating your Happy Life Support System, that is uniquely yours.

Topics include:

  • 29 areas you can create support for yourself
  • How to create your Happy Life Support Kit
  • How and when to use these powerful tools that you create.

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Things are getting crazy by the day.

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If you haven't noticed it, then maybe your hiding away somewhere and some remote

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island where no one knows where you are, but it does seem that the world is getting

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crazier and things are happening faster.

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And it looks like the next few months are going to be even worse.

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And so.

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Last week, I felt really overwhelmed.

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It was quite unusual for me to find myself wondering how I was going to get through

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this, how I was going to stay positive, stay high vibration, and keep focused

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on my passion, my purpose going forward.

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.I sat down and I came up with my choosing happy life support kit and what this

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is, is just a list of things that I can turn to when I'm feeling a little bit

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low, I can use to raise my vibration, to remind me to ground me, to bring me

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back to the positive elements of life and right back to the now moments I've

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said before that every moment counts.

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If you're feeling down, don't think too far into the future, think about what

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you can do positively and the next minute or the next hour, what can you do today?

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That's going to make a difference to you first.

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That's going to lift you up first so that you can lift the people around you.

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And that's what this episode is all about.

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I want to help you to create.

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Your system of support yourself, support life system.

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So let's get started with this.

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Week's choosing happy podcasts.

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The world looks like it's going to get crazier rather than comma in the

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next few weeks in the next few months.

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And I personally feel we're on the brink of massive change, even

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bigger than we've seen already.

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And if you ever saw things were going back to normal, I hope you've taken

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time to reconsider and that you're coming around to the perspective

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that that's unlikely to have.

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And are you formulating a way forward for yourself and your family to get

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through the crazy coming months?

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There's a ton of adjusting to do in my opinion, as we go through the coming

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months and into 2022, I've been putting together a self-support system, kind of

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like my oxygen mask for resilience and positivity self-sufficiency and choosing.

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Sometimes being remote and on my own, most of the time I can find

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it overwhelming to be acutely aware of what's going on in the world.

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And yet find that the world goes on around me often.

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Ignorance.

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It's a feeling I relate to like losing someone you love

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that you really are close to.

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And careful, I remember going to the funeral of my father-in-law really the

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first funeral I attended as an adult and I respected and loved him so much.

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He was so funny and positive and yet brutally honest.

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I remember sitting in the car on the way to the funeral and watching the

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rush hour, continue around me while my world seemed to be standing still.

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And sometimes that's how I feel today.

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When I see people carrying on with their lives completely unaware or on interested

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in what's really happening around them.

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And I want to shout out don't, you know, what's happened.

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Of course for the funeral.

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It had nothing to do with them.

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It's more frustrating today because it has to do with the future of

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humanity and every person on the planet, especially the children,

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my resilience oxygen mask.

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My life support system is a group of lists that I've created around

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things I can do that I can create, that I can take action on that.

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I can feel that I can challenge myself to keep me feeling healthily alive,

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energized, and focused on the good as well as things to pay attention

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to for my own self-care for my safety and security in broader terms.

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Some of these are practical, some spiritual, somewhat daily fun tasks.

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Some are health related, and most of them are self care focused.

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So grab a pen and a piece of paper and give it a go.

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Pause the podcast.

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When you go do this and just write down the headings to begin with,

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you know, take your time with this.

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This is not a half hour job.

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This is going to take you some time and I'm hoping you're going

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to find it fun and invigorating while you put the kit together.

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So even if you think the world is honky-dory going through, this is a

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kind of fun way to help yourself and to pass it on to of the people and help

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with maintaining mental, spiritual, and physical health and wellbeing.

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So when you're having a bad day or you've been sideswiped by life,

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you've got something to turn to, to lift your spirits, to keep you

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positive, to help you choose happy.

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Now I've put the lists and categories, and I'm generally asking you to come up

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with at least 10 alternatives, if you can.

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And I'll explain each as we go through.

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So let's get started.

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My first list.

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Well, it should really be an easy one it's music.

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So includes theme songs, motivational songs, foot tappers, jiggy songs,

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things that get you up to dance, maybe three to four of each

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make a list of them and then put them together in playlists that are easily

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accessible for those in need GD moments.

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The next list is meditations.

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These can be guided visualizations hypnosis.

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Mindfulness meditation , a good mix can really, really

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help make a playlist again.

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And something you can go back to when you're feeling anxious or stress when

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things are just overwhelming you, but you have these at hand to help you through.

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Make a list, make sure you have easy access.

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And if you want to challenge begin doing two per day, if you are already

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foods of the next things list, healthy foods list, do very day foods list your

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favorite treat foods, have them available.

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Especially the energy giving healthy foods and with the healthy foods start

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incorporating the more into your diet.

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If you aren't doing that already, the next one's pictures and photos,

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make your list and pull together your favorite pictures and photos of the

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ones that lift you up just when you see them and put them together in an album

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somewhere that's easily accessible, quotes and inspiring, supportive.

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pieces of text.

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Find them create posters, make a list of them first.

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Then write them out individually and create posters and print outs

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that you can have around you.

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Pin them around your house, around your bedroom.

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Wherever works for you.

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Books.

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Firstly, non-fiction make a list of 10 books that have inspired you and you'd

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read again and then have them to hands, decide to read them, make a monthly

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list of the books you want to read.

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And then we move on to fiction books and do the same, make them list of the 10

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funniest, happiest books you've read and would read again and again, gather them,

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have them to hand and maybe start reading.

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Audiobooks and podcasts, this 10 audios that inspire you and make you

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feel uplifted after listening to them, make sure you have them bookmarked

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or that they're easily accessed.

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Most empowering moments and memories, list them out, write out in a journal,

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choose a journal that you're going to have as your support system

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and list out the most empowering moments and memories of your life.

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So you can read them back, go into detail, put in the emotion, put in

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the feelings, put in what you saw, what you had even put in the smell.

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Clothes that make you feel good.

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Pull out those fab clothes that you love and a saving for that perfect occasion

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or buy the new, if you need some new ones, the ones that make you feel on top of

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the world and that you feel really like yourself, absolutely aligned and confident

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when you wear them and decide to wear.

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Whether it's once a week, once a month pull out 10 different

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outfits that really inspire you.

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She's got that many and decide to wear them physical exercise.

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List up to 10 forms of physical movement that you live doing and you

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feel good about makes you feel good afterwards, whether it's jogging,

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walking, dancing, cycling, you want to fix cleaning, yoga, stretching, or a

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certain exercise routine that you've made up yourself, or you love put it

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together, write it down, write down 10.

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If you can, even if you know, it's five minutes listening to your favorite tunes.

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Digging round the kitchen and put it down on your list and start doing them.

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You know, even if it's a running up downstairs, incorporate them into

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your life again on a regular basis and try to build at least five minutes of

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movement, five times a day to keep you feeling motivated and energized and

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keeping your energy high and keeping your fitness levels and strength high.

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Next pastimes that bring you joy, or you just have fun with and enjoy doing

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things like jigsaws on knitting or gaming or postals fishing, crafting, composing

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music, writing, whatever it is for you.

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List them out.

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Try to get 10, if you can plan to do at least one per week and begin

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with the one you haven't done in ages that you really love doing.

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And the next one is beverages list out your favorite drinks.

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Now I'm a bit of a coffee and a tea addict.

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I love Earl gray tea and a little bit particular about beverages, but it can

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be wine, a log of whatever your drinks are, make a list of your favorite drinks

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and half the drinks to hand have them in stock and treat yourself once a

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week, if possible, to the ones you have least all of the most and vary them.

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Give yourself a bit of variety.

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Physical things.

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That's furniture, art gifts.

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You've received things you've took away for special occasions, list your treasured

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items and bring them out and use them.

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For example, if you've a China in a service you and use for special

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occasions, then begin to use it drink out of that special cup.

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That treasure piece of jewelry keeps safe.

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Wear it.

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Have them close to hand for those days, you need a lift and you feel

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like just getting either dressed up or drinking out of that special cope.

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Even if it's the sexy underwear or the hat you onstage to a wedding, we

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have a hat in the house who knows.

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It might just cheer your day.

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So make the list and decide when you're going to bring them out

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and have them available to them.

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Press mantras, poetry, longer, press and poetry that give you a lift.

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Just reading them, make a list of them.

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Find them, find the sources and write them in your journal.

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So the zap to go to when you need a.

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Laughing out loud things that make you laugh out loud, list them.

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What are the top 10 things that make you laugh out loud?

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Whether it's a whoopee cushion or a child's laugh, or the time you turned

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up to work with your shirt on back to front, whatever it is, whatever

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memories, wherever ever sings, whatever people make you laugh out loud, write

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each one out in detail in your journal.

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And if possible, if you've got photographs.

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Video clips then have them to hand for when you need that

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laughing out loud moment.

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Your favorite people, those, you know, and love and would love to spend

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time with, or just feel happy when you think about them, list them out.

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Hopefully you've got 10, if you haven't, it doesn't matter.

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Just those important people that are so special that they lift you up.

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When you just think about them, visualize.

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Right about them in your journal and write three reasons.

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You love to spend time with them.

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What's so special about them.

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Put as much detail and emotion in as possible.

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And then the next ones, places you would like to go, just list them out.

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Absolutely open-minded about this, not whether it's possible or not

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just places you would love to visit.

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Write in your journal, three reasons you want to go there and find pictures and

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paste them in as a well, first things you would like to do and you haven't done yet.

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Make a left.

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Write them in your journal and write three reasons why you want to do

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that thing and a date that you want to do them by challenges, things

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you want to do that are outside your comfort zone that you're resisting.

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Again, list them out.

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Try to get 10, whether it's running a marathon, making sales calls,

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starting a business, speaking in public, driving somewhere on your own

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driving some way you've always wanted to go and still haven't gone yet.

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Attending a class you've been putting off.

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Or selling or giving or throwing away family heirlooms that aren't

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relevant to where you are right now.

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And you feel guilty doing it, choose to do something that's totally you for you.

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And just because, and write them in your journal.

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I acknowledge when you've done it.

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I begin to do it, give a date when you're going to do it.

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By

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funny TV shows, movies, comedian sets.

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Things like that, that make you laugh list 10, that you really love and

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have them at hand to rewatch just when you need them truths, alignment,

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purpose things, you know about yourself that you haven't been living

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list them list things that are totally true to you, that you've

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not had the courage to live out.

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Choose the ones you want to take action on and bring into your life.

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For instance, if you've always been a singer and stopped singing because of

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something that happens, then begin singing just for you in the shower while you're

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cooking writings, mine, I stopped writing.

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Because someone said it was a crutch I used, it's actually something

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that I do very naturally and I'm putting it in my diary to do each.

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Uplifting movies, list out the movies that leave you inspired

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and happy or just feeling good.

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Find them, make sure you have access to them.

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Begin watching them again.

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I know at the moment that there are a lot of people around where

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I live, who are watching Christmas movies again, it's that time of year.

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And they feel good and they take you out of yourself and lift you up.

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Animals.

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You love list out the animals.

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You love have pictures of them.

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If you don't have the animals with you, then find picture.

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So for instance, if your favorite animals, a penguin or a snow leopard,

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find pictures and put the pictures where you can access them and your job.

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10 things you appreciate most about where you are.

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So in the present moment, as you sit in your environment, in this

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space, in your life and the space and time, what is it that you

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really appreciate about this moment?

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List out 10 things and put them in your journal in as much detail as possible and

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include how you feel, what you see and what makes those things really special.

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Right.

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10, amazingly positive things about the future you would like to see.

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So whether it's a future for you just around you or whether it's the future

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of the world and how you want to see the world going forward, think outside

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of the box, think in an unlimited way.

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I dumped to your journal in as much detail as possible.

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And again, include what you see, how you feel, what makes those things importance,

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really get into the why of this.

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What's important for you, funniest moments of your life.

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So funny things that have happened to you or that you've

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witnessed again, make a less.

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Record them in your journal and as much detail as possible so that when

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you go back to read them, it has you lifted and laughing out loud and

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really step into those moments and as much detail as possible, what makes

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them so funny and what makes them so memorable 10 moments in time that make

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the biggest positive impact on you?

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And go deep on this, make a list at them to your journal in as much detail as

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possible, but go deep and really think of those moments that kind of transformed

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you in a positive way or transformed your life or your perspective, or

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showed you something, maybe a lesson, or it was just one of those awesome

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moments where you believed God exists.

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Next things you would like to see, do an experience that we haven't covered yet.

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So I could go on, there could be many, many more categories.

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Um, but rather than doing that, find a list of 10 things that.

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Would love to do C a experience that I haven't covered.

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Go wild with this.

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If anything was possible, what would you love to do again, thinks outside

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of the box, think unlimited and add them to your journal and as much

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detail as possible and really get into how it would make you feel, what you

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see and what makes them important.

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Why are these things that you would so much like.

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I think that's enough to be going on with, you'll find a link to

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the download in the show notes.

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There's

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also a transcription that's attached to this with the questions in it.

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So take your time.

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This is a task that should be given thoughts and consideration, make it

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fun, really enjoy it, really play with it and find the stuff that you love.

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The idea is that as you create these lists, you begin to

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gather the answers around you.

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You begin to fill in your support box.

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So when you're in need of support and something to lift you, you have

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these hand, you have some tools that can lift you up and you can choose.

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You've got quite a range of choices then, and you have them,

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as I said, at hand and convenient to you, and it's a great way to.

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Uh, high vibration and it's a great way to choose happy.

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Some people may say that this is an avoidance technique.

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This is really to be used, not so much as an avoidance,

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but it's a support technique.

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As things get a bit bleak in our lives as sometimes they do.

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It's just a way to keep your high vibration and keep you happy.

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Give you something to choon into and fall back into when you just need that lift.

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That helps you choose happy.

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Thank you for listening.

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I do appreciate the time you've taken to listen to this podcast, please

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like, and share if you think this is going to be a value to someone

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podcast and it helps me keep going.

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Thank you again.

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And I look forward to seeing you next week and the choosing happy podcast.

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